My mother wants to wear black!

Please help! What can I tell my mother to prevent her from wearing black? I think it is innappropriate and can't stand the thought of it. Her and my father believe I should have no say in the choice of her dress, and that it should be up to them.

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I wouldnt like white, but IMO black can look very elegant sometimes. I think it depends on the dress. Have any pics?

Unless its really inappropriate I wouldnt worry so much about it.

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You can get some really fashionable black gowns. But I do understand your displeasure. I've found with my mom that if you just make fun of it she'll be unsure and change her mind.

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Does she know how you feel about it???

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My mom is wearing black because she looks best in that color and I actually like it - I think it is very formal and classy but if you really don't like it maybe she could compromise and wear navy.

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Let her wear black. I don't see a problem with it! My Bm's are wearing black and pink!!!!

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I think it used to be considered inappropriate. But, it's considered very elegant now. Unfortunately, I don't think you can tell your mom what to wear. I know I wouldn't. My future mother in law is wearing black, and silver and I don't care.

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I think black can be very elegant, but if you are still upset about it, why don't you suggest a color like dark navy??

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for my sister's wedding, our dresses were black and white. both mothers wore black. it was very elegant

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both my mom and fmil are wearing elegant black dresses.

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My mother wore black to my wedding and she looked gorgeous.

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Yes she knows how I feel. I told her that I think black is a mourning color not a wedding color. She thinks it doesn't matter how I feel. Only how my father feels.

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I wouldn't stress too much about it. My mom is wearing black because she looks the best in it and to be honest, i don't really care what color she picks, except for white of course. My BM's are wearing black and my FMIL might get a black dress. So it will end up being a black and white wedding most likely.

Just out of curiousity... why don't you want her wearing black? What is your FMIL wearing?

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My girls are wearing navy, and my MIL wants to wear black Over my dead body. My mother is probably going to wear cranberry - there's NO reason FMIL can't buy champagne.

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My mom wore black and though I questioned it at first, it was simply because she felt more flattered in it

she also did not have her hair and makeup done professionally and I had to accept that.

As brides, we feel that we can tell everyone involved what to do and wear because it is our day....well hate to break it to ya but your mom is an adult and has the right to make her own decisions.

you just have to deal with your feelings on your own

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My mom was actually the one that felt uncomfortable wearing black - but I made her buy the gown. She looked the best in the black gown and I didnt mind at all - i agree that black looks very elegant and formal!

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i don't think the mob or mog should wear black to what is supposted to be the best day of their childs life. there are soo many other ptions out there, i don't see how black can be the only option

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My mom is wearing black, and I am so happy about it because it is very elegant.
However, if you are really against it, then just tell her how you feel. I am sure she will respect your feelings.

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At least she's not wearing a white gown. I know someone whose MIL wore a white sparklie GOWN to the wedding!!!!!

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I was upset at first when I saw my mother's dress and felt that she shoudl not wear black to her daughters wedding. HOWEVER, I decided it was not worth getting upset over. And honestly, on my wedding day, I totally forgot all about it.

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I am sorry if I offend anybody but is it that big of a deal? As long as the gown is appropriate (not too sexy, etc.) and mom is happy then who cares.

My mom is wearing black (most likely) and like many others have said it is ELEGANT and CLASSY besides that it is such a minor detail and there is so much more to worry about.

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My mother is wearing black and she is going to look beautiful. Black can be very elegant more so then other colors. I wouldn't be too worried if I were you. We are in the year 2006 anything goes now.

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Posted by lilqtny

I am sorry if I offend anybody but is it that big of a deal? As long as the gown is appropriate (not too sexy, etc.) and mom is happy then who cares.

My mom is wearing black (most likely) and like many others have said it is ELEGANT and CLASSY besides that it is such a minor detail and there is so much more to worry about.

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Just be happy that you have your mom there to share your day with you!!! Don't nit pick over simple things. It's not worth it!!!!

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I am sorry, I see nothing wrong with that. My BM are wearing black and pink. I love black, I think it looks elegant.