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I hope it works out for both of you!!!

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i totally hear ya sister~ i hope things get resolved in a peaceful way. hang in there and will definitely keep u in my prayers~

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Posted by jessandjimiswedding

i just learned last night at pre-cana to put your spouse first. you should tell him that. parents can guide you but the ultimate decision is between the two of you. your relationship should be a priority. he needs to know that it's about you now! not his mom.

i hope things work out and good luck!

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well said, I agree...

you're in our thoughts and prayers!

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I'm so sorry to hear about your issues.....hopefully everything will work out for the best and your issues will be resolved with time. I'll keep you in my thoughts....be strong....if its meant to be, you and your FH will make it through this.

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Hope everything works out!!

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i am so sorry to hear this-- best of luck to you and your FH

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for you

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Totally agree with you. It's about working together and not against one another...I hope everything works out for you!! You deserve nothing but the best!! Good Luck!

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Jiffy- for you, Just hang in there. FILs are very difficult to deal with sometimes and I am sure your FH knows what the right thing to do is.

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Nic, Im so sorry your going through a tuff time! I am here for you and so are the others Your a strong girl and i know u will get through this. your in my prays STAY STRONG!!!

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I'm so sorry to hear! Keep hanging in there!!! Hopefully you guys can work this out!!!

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Posted by prinses777

I am so sorry that you need to go through with this.

But honestly... that is a hard thing to ask him to do is to pick you or his mother... I don't think its fair that you are making him choose. Also you are marrying him, you love him and NOTHING should break that love not even a mental mother in law.

Now I know it is probably difficult dealing with her... but you are ready to just let the love of your life go because of 1 road block??? You should be in it through thick and thin...

Maybe you can make a list today of things that bother you and things you want to work through with him and then review it with him and talk about it calmly... Once you starting getting emotional and arguring things always go the wrong way and things most likely get said that aren't meant.

Good luck and I hope everything goes the way you want it.

Mwah.

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While I love your comment i don't whole heartidly agree with it. If you marry a man yes you inherit his mother and other family. But at the same time your husband should respect you in the same light. When any man constantly takes his mother's side all he does it create tension and arguments b/w him/wife, fW, mil. At some point the FH has to realize he will be spending the rest of his life with this woman and see that his mother has to take a back seat. If you wanna get religious once they are married they are yoked together as one. I'm not saying be disrespectful to his mom but see that acting as if he doesnt see things will make the situation worse.

BTW: Jiffy I am so sorry that you are going through this and hope all goes well. I do think you should discuss this with your FH and not just let it slide. Once you let it slide and dont acknowledge it, this will always go on.

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I hope that you two can work through this. Best of luck!

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I am so sorry to hear what you are going through. Try to think about how much you love him and he means to you. Don't let her get in the way of your feelings. for him! He loves you to because he is marrying you, Right? Give it a try. Let the Mom know that she has to lay off for a while. Don't let that ruin the love you too share. Hang in there sweety! I hope that everything gets better!

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You know exactly how I feel about this.


Hope everything turns out to be alright.

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Good luck you are in our prayers

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Just sending more prayers your way.

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I'm sorry that things are like this for you....but I have to say, based on your past posts, that you are NOT a very sensitive FW!!!!!
It doesnt' seem that you are very empathetic!
I am sure this is very tough on your FH. If you can't stand by his side, its better off that you not get married. This is what partnership is all about.

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Awwwww Nic!!!! I'm so sorry your going through this. Its rough to argue with FH about FMIL- I know when I say anything about mine, FH gets very defensive. BUT, your FMIL was in the wrong in this....and he should try to at least see it from your perspective....I really hope it works out for you!!! Try not talking to him for a few days.....I didn't talk to FH for like 4 days a couple of weeks ago....it was actually refreshing when we started talking again!! If your discussion doesn't go the way you want it to, then give it a few days to think about things, and to let FH calm down too (those local 3 guys are hotheads!!!

Please send me an FM if you want to talk!

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Thank you ladies!! I have posted an update for you! I love you all!