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I think Many if not all people are inclined to have feelings in regards to cheating and having an affair. /Sometimes, no matter how good we think our relationships are there is always that possibility. Take for example the man who no longer brings flowers or gives compliments. You meet this nice guy at work and he compliments you and does nice things for you and you still love your DH but you also like the attention you get from your co-worker. Seeking that attention is also a form of cheating. What about the internet? or Porn? I think both of those things are cheating and many people don't beleive that it is b/c there is no physical contact!

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Tammy, is there a point you are trying to make here?? if this keeps up I will just ask Ron to delete this darn thread. This is not a weight loss disucssion. People stated about weight and moved on, but you are going on and on about it. Let it rest already. I want some serious discussion on IFIDELITY, yes weight is a factor to be considered, but it is only one of many. So let's not turn this thread into that. Thanks

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Ilovewedd, I must agree 100% on that point, people can stray when what they used to get at home is not longer there. ie compliments, sex, attention, or they can feel their mate is taking them for granted. I think tho' before it gets to the point of you having to seek these things outside your marriage you should discuss it with your mate.

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I am trying to find the COSMO article I read on the so called 'business trips' etc...... I think it was cosmo..........


Sometimes valid trips and other husbands use it as an excuse to carry on an affair, it was over a year ago So I Dont see it in the archives, Ill keep looking for the study

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I wanted to respond on this thread because it's such a good topic but after reading through the whole thing I forgot the question.

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dont wanna get in the mix of all of this but whats up with ganging up on tammy? i think i'd feel the same way if a conversation was built on situation and gaining a few pounds. who hasn't gained a few since the wedding? even if its 1 - 2 lbs or 20 - 30 lbs.. another VERY sticky topic!

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Just for the record Tammy I think you look great!

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Thanks Lauren
but we are moving on NOW to just infidelity

I wish heather could log on
I just spoke to her and she told me her and Nick both gained and are very happy

everyone loses for their wedding and gains but for some reason we cannot discuss that here even though people change topics in threads all the time

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Misty, you and I are here -----><------- sometimes things just go by the way side. I still want to hear your thoughts on the weightloss I mean infidelity topic

*said in my most enthusiastic voice* WOW an article that deals with infidelity, now that I can't wait to see. *taps feet impatiently* as I eagerly await the article

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shamma
there are tons of articles
you only want one? Ill try to find it in b/w posting and working but honestly you never saw articles on this???

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I honestly do not think any marriage is infedelity proofed...

The most shocking moment of my life was finding out my dad cheated on my mom a number of times. To me, and the rest of the world, he was the 'perfect' man and god knows she was as close to the 'perfect wife' as they come. My dad was going to do this no matter what...for some reason there are men who choose to cheat and men who choose not to. I will be honest and say my parents relationship has made me struggle with trust issues not only with Anthony but with prior relationships as well. I think I have finally realized that Anthony wouldnt do that to me but I will never be 100% sure.

This is not to say that there are women out there who dont cheat as well..I know many. Getting caught is one aspect of why people choose to do or dont do it but deep down its a conscious decision that one must CHOOSE. I also believe in the saying 'once a cheater, always a cheater' I feel if someone can do it once, they can do it over and over.

I know it wasnt my husband but my ex cheated on me and I dont think cheaters understand the hurt that they give people when they do this. He destroyed me to the point where I could not even function...men may see it as a piece of ass on the side...but what i went through for him to have that one night stand was unbelievable. As far as famous people go..they are going to take what they can get...as Theresa said...they are in the limelight...most times people just cant get over the notorioty of themselves...which is very sad.

All in all..I have made it very clear to Anthony that if he ever hurt me like this..I would make his life a living hell. My mom let my dad off easy..he left..leaving her with the 3 kids...not me...I would torture him and make him pay for every ounce of hurt that he made me feel.

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Lauren, why would you say that???

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Noreen

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I didn't know something like this existed, someone just sent this to me...this is funny

CHEATING SPOUSE

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Tammy you are turning this into a weight after marriage thread.

We just want to hear everyones thoughts on INFIDELITY thats all

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Shamma I got that link too

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articles on signs of cheating

'Help! My friend's man may be cheating!' (Redbook)

8 Hints He's a Player (Cosmopolitan)

32 Emotional Signs That He's Cheating

Another woman wants my man!

Boyfriend Says Sex Chats are Harmless

Coping with His Wandering Eye

How do I deal with my wife's dishonesty?

Husband seems closer to secretary than to me

Husband Sees Ex-Girlfriends Socially

Husband's Old Girlfriend Returns

Is cybersex really cheating?

Is He Cheating on Me? (Cosmopolitan)

Is he really 'just friends' with his ex?

Is it normal to be attracted to other people, including women?

Is Oral Sex Cheating?

My Guy Is Suddenly Acting Different (Cosmopolitan)

My Man Gets Off in Front of Other Women (Cosmopolitan)

Obsessed over Boyfriend's Faithfulness

Why You Don’t Have to Have Sex to Cheat

Wife says she may be attracted to women

Will Your Guy Cheat on You? (Cosmopolitan)

Would Your Guy Cheat? Would You Know? (




here are a few, the links are not working
just go to cosmopolitan.com
unfortunately only goes back to 2/02
the one I am looking for I know was before that

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I think Noreen said it the best. There isn't one formula for who or why people cheat. Some are almost just programmed to cheat - and no matter what or who their partner is, they will cheat. What are you going to do when you've spent your entire life being the 'perfect media-ideal' and your mate STILL cheats on you? Will you blame yourself? Will you blame the 5lbs you gained & say you let yourself go, that's why he cheated? I think that's bullsh*t. Even though I think it takes 2 to make a relationship work...someone who cheats, does so regardless of who they are with. They cheat for selfish reasons. Feeding into societal standards by putting makeup on 24/7 and having surgery to 'fix flaws' or working out till you're the 'ideal weight' is not doing anything to correct the problem. The problem is that people cheat.

The answers - or reasons why - aren't so black and white and I think they need to be addressed or all we're doing is enabling the cheater. I mean, no one blames the wife for the alcoholic husband...why blame the wife for the cheating husband?

edited for spelling...

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Ok, I'm going to answer the original question:

DO YOU THINK YOUR MARRIAGE IS INFIDELITY PROOF AND IF YOU SAY YES, WHAT MAKES YOU THINK THIS???

Yes, I think my marriage is infidelity proof. My reasons are 3 fold, in NO particular order:

1. My husbands religious convictions come close to dictating his actions. No, this is not the ONLY reason. He is a practicing Catholic, and not a hypocritcal one, even though he married a Jewish girl. If anything, marrying outside his religion made him understand his religion more, and vice versa. It's a sin to cheat, he believes this, I believe it. Nuff said on that topic. The guilt that would plague him for the rest of his life if he did would be too much for him to handle if he even thought about it. Not only because he's Catholic, but because we jewish girls know how to lay on the guilt!

2. The degree of respect we have for one another outweighs any and all possible outside interference in our marriage. When we took our vows, we were ready for them. We firmly believe that if you DON'T know what your vows mean, you aren't ready for marriage. Every single one of them meant something to us, and were discussed beforehand. To love, HONOR, and cherish. Honor is a very important word. It is my honor to be married to him, and his honor to be married to me. We look at people the same way, and we have the same opinions about people's actions and behaviors. We don't believe that any person willing to conduct themselves in a manner that is threatening to someone else's marriage deserves and ounce respect. If you are a ho trying to put a move on my husband, back off, because I guarantee you he will shoot you to the ground before you have a chance to say 'hi'. You are classless in his eyes, and I know this. We know eachother TOO well. We were friends first, and I know what he's like outside the relationship spectrum, and how he acts. I am the same way. If you are a man that looks at the ring on my finger and you STILL approach me......you are trash in my eyes and not worth me in the first place.

3. I will beat his ass and he knows it.