UPDATED!!! SEE PAGE 10 QOTD INFIDELITY in MARRIAGES!!!

We can't let this get into an ugly debate - we did so well with the other topic, and I think that was even more dangerous!

Let's all stick to the topic of infidelity in marriages

I have cheated. To tell the truth it had nothing to do with the current relationship I was in.

Its just more fun to cheat than to leave the guy I was presently with for another.

Its just curiosity in wanting to know how the other guy is and do different things.

I just cheated to cheat.

No the guy got fat and lazy and didn't bring me flowers. Just cheat b/c I met someone that was of interest to me.

Neva, you have no sense, I am going to tell Steve

SHAMMA I ANSWERED THE QUESTION!

Back to the topic at hand!

I am just being honest.

Steve knows.

Tammy you were the one who kept bringing it up.

Can we please move on?

I don't want to start a problem here, this discussion was so good for a while!

Digital, thanks for sharing that!

Misty I like your #3

Misty, I like point #3 you are a riot as always, poor hubby of yours don't mess with a bklyn girl, ya hear

Neva, say it aint so

I mean really Of course if I ever got caught I would sing a sob story on how things just are not the same and I felt neglected blah blah blah

I am convinced thats the same thing men do.

I cheated on my last BF of 7years like 11 times.....

Some Of the guys I slept with others I only kissed.
I did it BC I could....
Towards the end I was bored but liked the security blanket ......

He was WRONG for me.
So NOT me.
Kept me for so LONG not being ME.........

I learned so much from all of my cheating experiences........

Mentally and sexually..............
I would never take them back.

They allowed me to finally get into a realtionship in which my man is my KING..
I will love him and ONLY him and please him for all of my days on earth......

I live and love for ROnnie...

I think we find in a lifetime one MAN like that!!!!!!!!!

Ronnie knows all of my past!!!!!!!

I think our relationship is infidelity proof, b/c I believe both of us have enough brains to value each other and the relationship and not fall for a 5-minute romance... If either one of us cheated, it would be over immediately, b/c I could never trust a man who has cheated.

One exception to the rule above could be that he gets totally drunk, but even then, I would totally need to know all details before even thinking of forgiving, considering I have never seen Lenny in an incomprehensible state...

8 Hints He's a Player (Cosmopolitan)

32 Emotional Signs That He's Cheating


why are none of this links posting?? ugh
it is too long to copy

Theresa, if men and women would only be honest and say what the real deal is then maybe there would be less cheating. SOme of these married men that cheat are such darn liars.

Neva, you hit it right on the head caught with your hand in the cookie jar face up to it and move on.

and T I have to agree with you. I think you learn from the experience and that makes you able to be in a committed relationship b/c you got all your curiosity answered.

Thats why I don't think people should get married really young. I just think you need to truly date different people and get it all out of your system before you settle down.

I think the reason I would never cheat now is b/c the curiosity is gone. I mean men try to talk to me now and I am like please I would not risk my marriage and my husband for you.

Back to the original question:

DO YOU THINK YOUR MARRIAGE IS INFIDELITY PROOF AND IF YOU SAY YES, WHAT MAKES YOU THINK THIS???

To say yes to this implies a perfect relationship and I dont know anyone who has one. We all need to work at keeping our relationships growing in whatever ways that are appropriate. For some that may be keeping fit, for others it may be taking up new hobbies, for others it may be sharing more alone time. Whatever it is - you have to do whatever works for you. There are no gaurantees in life - you can only put 100% in your relationship and do your best at picking someone who is equally committed. If both of that isnt there, there is no hope no matter how great you look, how sexy you are or how confident you are that it will never happen to you.

I trust my husband as much as I can trust anyone. I would put my life in his hands without hesitation. I know he a good person based on my experiences with him. Does that mean that in 25 years he will be the same guy? I have no freaking clue. I think and hope so ... but no one can see into the future. But there is no help in worrying or planning ahead ... all we can do is work on making today and tommorrow as good as it can be.

I cheated on my last boyfriend (of almost 5 years) pretty much from the beginning of the relationship. And I loved the guy - I had a great time with him and I enjoyed his company. He was beautiful, we had a great sex life, we had fun...we stank in the communication department. The relationship was one big party - with all the ingredients of a party - and it was never going to go anywhere. I cheated b/c I could...b/c the guy loved me unconditionally and even knowing that, I didn't trust him. I told myself it was b/c I had an issue with trust - having been cheated on. I have no 'valid' reasons for why I cheated for so long, with so many...just that I could. Situations presented themselves to me, and I took advantage of them. A few years ago I saw my ex and we talked about all this...he forgave me - he never got angry about it all. I'm still convinced it's b/c he had his own indescretions.

He was all wrong for me...Chris is nothing but right for me. Neither of us would just give up and cheat on the other. If things weren't working, we'd try another way to make it work. And if that didn't work, we'd go to someone to help us. And if that didn't work...then we'd walk away knowing that we gave it our all and were honest the entire time.

Neva, I dated 2 men at once and they both knew about each other, why can't men be like that, and tell women they are not down for the committment and just let the woman make the decision frm there whether or not she wants to be with him. When you lie to a person you take their choice away. I hate lying and cheating.

Shamma where did you find these men?

No one I have ever dated would tolerate that.