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CubanBride Posted: Jul 03, 2004 08:04 AM+
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Contraversial topic so be prepared...

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'I was reading through the veggie wedding post and I noticed that a few people said they didn't eat meat for moral reasons. Well, it has been really bothering me. People often throw morality around like its nothing, so when it comes to moral issues I am very, very sceptical of people. It's not because I think I am better or smarter than anyone else. It's because I like to get to the nitty gritty of people and it's just something that I do. So please do not take this as a personal attack, I am not singling out anyone specifically. '

Ok...those of you who are vegetarians for moral reason, mainly because you don't want to see innocent animals die, I need to ask you something.

Do you own leather shoes, sneakers, purses, or jackets? (Leather is something that requires the harvester to kill the animal it comes from.) And if so, do you feel personal conflict in that fact?
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janwinterbridejoy Posted: Jul 03, 2004 08:29 AM+
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my brothers ex girlfriend was a vegeterian for moral reasons and would make my family, brother included feel terrible everytime we ate meat in front of her. she would sent us pamphlets on what they do to animals when there slattered etc. one day i just couldnt take it anyone i respect everyones views and thoughts but i wasnt going to have her try and cram her views down my throat any longer. she was soo offended she stormed out stamping her LEATHER boot clad feet on the floor of the dining room grabbing her SUEDE coach bag and LEATHER coat lol.
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sweetadeline Posted: Jul 03, 2004 08:40 AM+
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All of the strict vegetarians I know avoid leather and all animal-based products. That includes things like Altoid mints, which are made with gelatin. It can be VERY difficult to avoid leather when buying shoes and such, and these people really have to invest time and energy when they do simple shopping tasks.

And, for some reason that I will never fully understand, many these strict vegetarians get teased, taunted, and accused of being hypocrites. Just goes to show that folks who are different are still often mistreated or maligned in our society. People feel threatened when someone doesn't share their value system, I guess. Weird, since this country is supposedly based on freedom to be yourself and the like.
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september2004 Posted: Jul 03, 2004 08:46 AM+
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Posted by sweetadeline

All of the strict vegetarians I know avoid leather and all animal-based products. That includes things like Altoid mints, which are made with gelatin. It can be VERY difficult to avoid leather when buying shoes and such, and these people really have to invest time and energy when they do simple shopping tasks.

And, for some reason that I will never fully understand, many these strict vegetarians get teased, taunted, and accused of being hypocrites. Just goes to show that folks who are different are still often mistreated or maligned in our society. People feel threatened when someone doesn't share their value system, I guess. Weird, since this country is supposedly based on freedom to be yourself and the like.


agree... as long as they don't try to impose their beliefs on me, who am i to judge?
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nov.bride Posted: Jul 03, 2004 09:16 AM+
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Posted by september2004


Posted by sweetadeline

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agree... as long as they don't try to impose their beliefs on me, who am i to judge?






I asgree witht the above quote-
I applaud people who have the convictions to go out of thier way to adhere to this lifestyle based upon thier beliefs.
( as long as they don't wrong me for not doing the same)
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sweetadeline Posted: Jul 03, 2004 09:20 AM+
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Posted by nov.bride


Posted by september2004


Posted by sweetadeline

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agree... as long as they don't try to impose their beliefs on me, who am i to judge?






I asgree witht the above quote-
I applaud people who have the convictions to go out of thier way to adhere to this lifestyle based upon thier beliefs.
( as long as they don't wrong me for not doing the same)



Yes, absolutely. I forgot to mention that important part of the equation!
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Brandalina Posted: Jul 03, 2004 09:35 AM+
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Posted by sweetadeline

All of the strict vegetarians I know avoid leather and all animal-based products. That includes things like Altoid mints, which are made with gelatin. It can be VERY difficult to avoid leather when buying shoes and such, and these people really have to invest time and energy when they do simple shopping tasks.

And, for some reason that I will never fully understand, many these strict vegetarians get teased, taunted, and accused of being hypocrites. Just goes to show that folks who are different are still often mistreated or maligned in our society. People feel threatened when someone doesn't share their value system, I guess. Weird, since this country is supposedly based on freedom to be yourself and the like.



Well said.

As a vegetarian, people are often asking me to defend my actions, and it usually turns into an attack on my character. My intentions come out of a love of all living beings and a desire not to harm them. I don't believe in trying to convert people, and I don't think I'm better than anyone else, I'm just trying to make positive changes within myself. It really is a shame the way people are [still] judged and discriminated against in our country.

So, to answer you're question, I don't wear leather or animal-derived products. My Fi is vegan, so he doesn't eat anything that has come from an animal [no eggs, cheese, butter, etc.] and we don't use any products that have been tested on animals.
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MrsK-in-June05 Posted: Jul 03, 2004 09:41 AM+
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I was a vegetarian for two years, but I never criticized others. To answer your question, yes I wore leather jackets and leather shoes. I just didn't like to eat the animals. Anyways, it all went down the toilet at BJ's one day when I was absolutely starving and the only thing available was a hot dog!! I still don't eat veal to this day and I avoid gelatin.
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myasmom Posted: Jul 03, 2004 09:50 AM+
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This is definitely a controversial topic but it is reality.

I am not a vegan but I am all for animal rights in a realistic manner. I beleive that animals were put on this earth to be eaten but i do not agree in INHUMANE animal testing or the waste of animals for food...meaning we really should revert back to days when animals were killed based on need. This way there would be less waste.

I do applaud people who try to be vegan, but not those who put animals on a higher pedastal than humans.

There is no true way of being 100% vegan, I believe that to be a myth. Somehow there will be animal products or by products that people come in contact with...why..alot of labels on products have been proven to be misleading..same with people paying for organic food then finding out it truely was not.

All I ask of my vegan friends is not to push their beliefs on me as I choose not to eat a juicy beef burger in their presence..we have respect for one another and thats the most important thing.
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palebride Posted: Jul 03, 2004 10:43 AM+
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Not a vegetarian here, but in college, I lived with one...and I know how difficult her life was, trying to find products with out animal traces in them....shopping for hand lotion is something that will always stand out in my mind....i go and buy the cheapest one, she went and would have to ready ever singel lable to figure out which she could use.....but she didn't complain about it ever.
another set of friends that i have are vegetarian/vegan - they were recently married and created a website, where they included a statement about where they were registered, and requested that if people bought them gifts not on the registry, to aviod any animal products, leather, ivory, etc......
it's a pretty difficult lifestyle, and I admire anyone who can do it!
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Darcy Posted: Jul 03, 2004 12:06 PM+
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No I do not. I also try to buy products (hygine products) that are not tested on animals and many times the company is environmentaly consious. I also don't eat any dairy. This includes anything that contains D3, whey, milk, eggs... any thing that is derived from animal. I don't eat anything with Gelitan (horse or pig hoofs and ligamints) such as jello, skittals, mentos, altoids. The worst is that my coat is made of wool (no killing involved) because my father was buying, being impatient, and I really needed a new coat.
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Darcy Posted: Jul 03, 2004 12:15 PM+
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I would also like to add that it is not as difficult as it all seems. The worst is food you have never bought before, or going out to eat. But once you get the nack of it, once you have found you favorite products and stores, even payless, kmart, New Balance have/make non leather shoes, your golden. Especially on LI. 3 Trader Joes and evertime I am there I purches things I like to eat and hygine products. Not to say there aren't things here I can get.
It takes a considerable amount of drive to reach the point. You do have to do your research. But I have been doing it for almost 3 years vegan, almost 6 years veggitarian, and it is pretty easy now.
Hey, my reception hall is even making me a vegan cake and they are going way out of their way to help me out!
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bxgell2 Posted: Jul 03, 2004 12:16 PM+
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I think you will be hard-pressed to find a vegetarian who does it for moral reasons who also uses leather products... some, true, but few and far between... since we became veggie, FH and I don't buy any leather products, avoid gelatins, lotions, etc... that use animal products or test on animals (I HIGHLY reccomend Burt's Bees products!)... did I throw out everything I own that is leather once I became veggie? Not yet... because what's done is done at this point...but, you won't catch me buying anything with leather ever since I did become veggie... my brother, who is vegan, never buys anything with leather, but my other brother, who is a vegetarian for health, not moral reasons, buys everything leather... matron, who is the model vegan, has the most amazing non-leather shoe collection I've ever seen!
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bxgell2 Posted: Jul 03, 2004 12:19 PM+
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And, to add, like Darcy, when we gave up meat, we also gave up milk products (which wasn't too hard for me considering I'm lactose intolerant ... and soy milk is really yummy!)... and only eat free-range eggs... so, yes, we try to follow through as far as possible with our convictions
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CubanBride Posted: Jul 03, 2004 12:38 PM+
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I would like to appaud those who don't use any animal derived products and are vegetarian. I have met many people who have claimed to be vegetarians for moral reasons and still wore leather coats, shoes, etc. I didn't understand it.
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HearzBellz Posted: Jul 03, 2004 12:51 PM+
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my vegetarian family does not wear or purchase any leather products, nor do they buy anything tested on animals....my one aunt will not even wear wool b/c of how they shear the sheep.
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MrsBrad Posted: Jul 03, 2004 01:22 PM+
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i am a vegatarian, but no very strict and i dont know if i really do it for 'moral' beliefs. i do feel bad eating an animal, but i dont think its immoral. i also think its really gross to eat an animal.

just thought i would add in my two cents
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dm24angel Posted: Jul 03, 2004 01:32 PM+
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What do you vegitarians think about charity orginazations like the MDA?
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oakslady Posted: Jul 03, 2004 02:11 PM+
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ok i have to add a bit in here - i use to be vegetarian - it was a personal choice and i didnt push how i felt about it on anyone - until i became ill and trying to remain on a vegetarian diet became very difficult with all the medication i took which of course contains geletin - i moved away from it over a few years and when i met fh who is allergic to most vegetables around i realized i would have to add meats back into the diet so that he would have something to eat -
i wasnt attacking when i posted on the other thread - i do respect people who do it because it isnt always easy to find things to eat on the menu. stand by your convictions - just try to understand and respect those who dont.
that is all i am going to add now -
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bxgell2 Posted: Jul 03, 2004 02:12 PM+
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Posted by dm24angel

What do you vegitarians think about charity orginazations like the MDA?



Excuse my ignorance (I'm studying for the bar, so what may be obvious to everyone else, will completely elude me at this point)... but what is the MDA?
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