I have bad news ladies

Today, I found out that FH cheated on me with a so call friend of mine. This happened over six months ago, we work at the same same place, I just wanted to pull out my gun and kill both of them, but I realize it is not worth it. everyone at work knew except me. I really don't know what to do now. I don't think I can ever trust him again, but I still love him.


Sorry I just wanted to vent because I can't tell anyone in my family

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omg :(

i'm so sorry

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I'm so sorry, I don't know what to say, but here are some hugs for you...

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Are you still going to marry him? Does he know you know??????????

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You have to do what your head and your heart tell you to do. If you love him and want him in your life, talk to him about it. The biggest thing will be the trust that you have lost for him. If you want to call it quits, you don't have to tell the family, just a close friend or two. But for now....

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OMG, Im so sorry, but I guess its best you found out know I hope you do whats best for YOU. Im so sorry

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Posted by PeterNChris

Are you still going to marry him? Does he know you know??????????

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I don't know if I am going to marry him or not. Yes he knows and he told me the truth when I asked him about it.

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how did you find out and if everyone knew why didnt they tell you sooner

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How long have you all been together? Was the indiscretion a one-time fling or was it a repeated thing? How has your relationship been before this?
Perhaps he realized how much he loved you after being a pig and that's why he decided to propose?

If you truly love him and you feel he is truly sorry (he better make a FOOL of himself to get back in your good graces) then I say go for it. You definitely need some couples counseling to help you learn to accept what he did. If you decide to forgive him, know that you must forgive him with your whole heart- no rehashing it later.

This could make your relationship stronger, but it's going to be lots of hard work to build the trust again.

I am so sorry you are dealing with this....

Amy

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Posted by Soon2BeMrs2006

how did you find out and if everyone knew why didnt they tell you sooner

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The funny thing is that SHE told me. Since we got engaged last month I have been talking my wedding a lot. I was also looking into changing careers (I am a police officer) because being married and having children would be hard with that profession. Anyway, she called me this morning and told me that she had something to tell me. I asked her if it was something that I would get upset about and she said yes so, I asked her to email me instead. Now I feel like a total fool because I have stop talking to a lot of my family members because of HIM, I don't know how I am going to face everyone

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I am so sorry I can't imagine how you feel right now. I wish you much luck and strength in whatever you decide to do. We are here for you.

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So sorry.

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OMG!!!! I'm so sorry!

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I am so so very sorry!

This has to be one of the toughest things anyone could ever go through, especially with a friend. I am sorry that two people you love and trust let you down.

I feel that if he didn't respect you enough to be faithful to you and she didn't respect you enough to not touch your boyfriend, neither of them are worth being in your life.

Of course this is a personal and difficult decision and one that you have to come to and live with. My own personal beliefs are that 'once a cheater, always a cheater' and this is the one thing where I cross the line. I don't feel strongly (to the point of not ever 'rationalizing' or 'talking myself out of') about too many things, but this is one of them. I would actually get divorced due to infidelity.

Again, I'm sorry and I pray that you are given the strength to get through this.

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I am really sorry Thank God you found out now.

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Posted by SomethingBlu

I am so so very sorry!

This has to be one of the toughest things anyone could ever go through, especially with a friend. I am sorry that two people you love and trust let you down.

I feel that if he didn't respect you enough to be faithful to you and she didn't respect you enough to not touch your boyfriend, neither of them are worth being in your life.

Of course this is a personal and difficult decision and one that you have to come to and live with. My own personal beliefs are that 'once a cheater, always a cheater' and this is the one thing where I cross the line. I don't feel strongly (to the point of not ever 'rationalizing' or 'talking myself out of') about too many things, but this is one of them. I would actually get divorced due to infidelity.

Again, I'm sorry and I pray that you are given the strength to get through this.

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Thanks SomethingBlue, that is how I feel, once a cheater always a cheater, I will leave him

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i am so sorry that this happen to you and i agree that it is better that you found out now instead of later. About your family and how to face them dont worry i am sure that they will be there to support you. family is family and their is always a love their regardless. good luck and take care of yourself.

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OMG!! I am soo sorry!
I wouldn't worry about what people think or about the wedding right now. I would be pissed that she told you and not him. Sometimes it is worse hearing it from someone else. I had an ex-boyfriend cheat and I could never trust him again. I think you need to take a few days to let this soak in. If this is something you can never forgive DO NOT marry him. There are a ton more guys out there that would never do this to you. I know it is hard now and I cann't even imagine what you are going thru. Again I am very sorry...

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oh i am so sorry!!

i think one of the worst parts is--he didn't tell you!!! he would have let you 2 get married without ever telling you. it's never okay to cheat, but HE should have told you, not her.

best of luck with whatever you decide to do. hopefully he hasn't done this before with other women.

i'm sorry to even mention this, but you should really go to the doctor and get yourself tested. you want to keep yourself SAFE.

we are here for you