Re: The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands! (REVIEW) LONGEST POST EVER, BE WARNED!

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Posted by FutureMrs.T

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Posted by cbcf

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Posted by FutureMrs.T

When Dr. L writes 'Avoid books, magazines, and TV shows that describe what marriage, family, and husbands ought to be like'

Isnt that what she is writing about???? Its sort hypocritical (sp?).

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um not sure if i am right in saying this but i think what she means is books and magazines that tell us how our husband should be...meanwhile she is helping those who take her advice to apprecaite their husbands for who they are and know thta they have different emotions and dont necessarly understand how we feel...and also that when we want respect we should give it as well..idk thats kinda what i got from it she isnt really telling us how a husband should be...

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You are right that she is not telling us what husbands should be....she is telling us what we should be as wives...which is just as bad.

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good point.

just have to say i dont think she is telling us HOW wives should be she is giving advice...and whomever wants to accept it good for them and hope it works but if you dont you dont have to agree with it at all....i guess i am just nuetral in this topic lol

i listen to my dad and mom and see how they made a happy marriage last for 28 yrs with 7 kids and also having a child pass away

Re: The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands! (REVIEW) LONGEST POST EVER, BE WARNED!

I read the book too it helped. I'll post my thoughts in a minute.

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Posted by beachbum05

I like to read.

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you can read?

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Posted by LuvMyAlfonse

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Posted by beachbum05

I like to read.

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you can read?

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i hate you guys

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Posted by LuvMyAlfonse

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Posted by beachbum05

I like to read.

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you can read?

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I think so. I like picture books best.

Re: The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands! (REVIEW) LONGEST POST EVER, BE WARNED!

i like the pop up books

Re: The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands! (REVIEW) LONGEST POST EVER, BE WARNED!

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Posted by FutureMrs.T

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Posted by cbcf

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Posted by FutureMrs.T

When Dr. L writes 'Avoid books, magazines, and TV shows that describe what marriage, family, and husbands ought to be like'

Isnt that what she is writing about???? Its sort hypocritical (sp?).

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um not sure if i am right in saying this but i think what she means is books and magazines that tell us how our husband should be...meanwhile she is helping those who take her advice to apprecaite their husbands for who they are and know thta they have different emotions and dont necessarly understand how we feel...and also that when we want respect we should give it as well..idk thats kinda what i got from it she isnt really telling us how a husband should be...

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You are right that she is not telling us what husbands should be....she is telling us what we should be as wives...which is just as bad.

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No.

It's about treating FH/husband like a human being.

It's about acceptance which is a two way street.

Re: The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands! (REVIEW) LONGEST POST EVER, BE WARNED!

I was thinking just a little while ago about a fight I had with FH maybe 2 weeks ago. I yelled something very mean, hurtful, and disrespectful to him. Something I've heard other women say to their boyfriends but it was still really bad. FH's response... he almost walked out on me. I've been with him for five years, I can't even say I lost my temper, I lost myself for a few minutes for the first time ever and if he didn't realize that and forgive me I wouldn't be posting on these boards.

The things is, if FH ever talked to me that way, he would be ex-FH. And that's a double standard. But we kissed and made up and I'm making an attempt to be nicer and respectful and go out of my way for him. And my testimonial, in less than a week I'm happier and he's happier.

You don't have to agree with the author. You don't have to buy or read the book. By my self and the OP thought there was some helpful information to share. I don't think the OP wanted to start drama I think she wanted to share something she learned.

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Re: The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands! (REVIEW) LONGEST POST EVER, BE WARNED!

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Posted by Autumn08

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Now THIS was a great show to get relationship advice from!!!

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Posted by stephanief

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Posted by AmandaLynn04

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Posted by ant n tilde

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Posted by AmandaLynn04

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Posted by megzzie

Wow what a great and detailed review - thanks for sharing!

I think this part is so true - 'Avoid books, magazines, and TV shows that describe what marriage, family, and husbands ought to be like, and make a conscious effort to be grateful for things as they are instead of trying to change the people around me.'

So many people do this and it causes so many fights - I've seen it happen between couples!

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Thank YOU. It took me an hour to type this up, to just have it beaten down! I appreciate you saying that. Everyone is so quick to jump down my throat!!!

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i think everyone appreciates your effort - dont take it personally. This is a topic women feel VERY strongly about on both sides!

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Yeah, I know, maybe I'm just feeling that way because by these reactions, it's clear who read it, and it's clear who is jumping on the bandwagon!

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so If we do not agree with what she is saying, then we are 'jumping on the bandwagon?'

that is interesting

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nope, but thanks for putting words in my mouth!

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Posted by lipglossjunky73

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Posted by ant n tilde

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Posted by AmandaLynn04

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Posted by kellybean

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Posted by AmandaLynn04

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Posted by megzzie

Wow what a great and detailed review - thanks for sharing!

I think this part is so true - 'Avoid books, magazines, and TV shows that describe what marriage, family, and husbands ought to be like, and make a conscious effort to be grateful for things as they are instead of trying to change the people around me.'

So many people do this and it causes so many fights - I've seen it happen between couples!

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Thank YOU. It took me an hour to type this up, to just have it beaten down! I appreciate you saying that. Everyone is so quick to jump down my throat!!!

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I think the time and effort you put into this is amazing...I may not agree with it...but what works for one is not always going to work for another.....I think it is a very large compliment to your FH that you are putting so much effort into making sure that you are both happy.......thats wonderful.....I dont think people are beating you down I just think people are different....'different strokes for different folks.'

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You're right. I guess just because I believe a lot of what she says, it's hard for me to differentiate between MY beliefs being beaten down, and HERS being beaten down, you know?

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i totally understand and agree with you!! that is why i usually dont talk about this stuff

we are always going to be the minority and it is going to be very easy for people to bash us simply bc there is more of them lol

like i always tell my family. . . i should have been born in the 40s

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i dont understand why you feel that people are bashing you??

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Posted by MJDoc12

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Posted by lipglossjunky73

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bad bad bad girls!!!!

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Posted by Summer07Bride





I think before you get married everything seems so ideal, like I am going to do this and that and then you get married and reality hits. I actually just read something in the Post about this very idea saying how before marriage chores are split 50/50 and then after marriage the wife tends to do more. Ladies - just wait until you are married and then you will see how much of her advice you follow.

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i understand how you can think that BUT my mom has been married for over 40 years and my sister has been married for about 10. . .this is the way we 'roll' in my family and it definitely works for us

maybe people will feel that we are a little 'behind the times' but it is how we were raised and it makes us happy!

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Posted by lipglossjunky73

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Posted by Autumn08

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Now THIS was a great show to get relationship advice from!!!

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ooooh good come back!

Re: The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands! (REVIEW) LONGEST POST EVER, BE WARNED!

I don't really think it's funny. And, I COMPLETELY RESPECT all of you who have posted your opinions about it, whether or not it agrees with my feelings, or what the book says. But posting mocking pictures is immature.

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Posted by AmandaLynn04

I don't really think it's funny. And, I COMPLETELY RESPECT all of you who have posted your opinions about it, whether or not it agrees with my feelings, or what the book says. But posting mocking pictures is immature.

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oooh i m sorry you were offended. . . i think they were just trying to lighten the mood. .

again i know it is hard bc it feels like they are getting personal - but they disagree with the ideas for their own lives NOT with you personally