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Posted by lilqtpie2181

NO LUNCH?????i would have dropped out when i heard that i eat all day long!

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No one can stop me from eating..

I would get an order of Large Onion rings from BK and eat it right before the wedding.

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Wow.

While I understand a good many of your points, you really need to address them directly to the bride instead of attacking an entire website full of brides who you know NOTHING about. Telling us *all* to get over ourselves will do nothing more than invalidate your otherwise valid arguments.

You're not venting in a 'neutral place'! You're venting on a wedding website where not only your 'friend' will see it, but also tons of other women who have done nothing to harm or inconvenience you.

I understand the need to vent, though. You want a neutral place, go get a Livejournal.

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Posted by wp2006

So you all, as brides, really think that I shoudl approach the bride, NOW inteh 11th hour (wedding in less than 2 weeks) with these concerns?

You think that would be appropriate?
You don't think that would maybe be stress she doesn't need right now?

These were [mostly] not issues back a few months out when I could have gracefully declined. if I back out now, she needs to reconfigure her procession, her seating, her everything.

So I decided to vent ina nuetral place while also letting brides in on how actions appear to others.

it;s JUST a wedding.

And while maybe htis experience is showing I shouldn't be friends with her in general, i somehow thing now, during her stressing, is not the appropriate or mature time to break off being friends.

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the thing is, when you tell us to get over ourselves, then the tone becomes a wee less neutral!

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Posted by chrissyandvin

There is a simple solution here gals....
umm this person obviously has a lot of animosity towards this bride )so called friend) and is talking a lot of bad stuff... so maybe she isn't a real friend so maybe you shouldn't be in the wedding party! I would NEVER say that it was 'just a wedding' if it was a close friend of mine!! That is your friends big day! If what you said is true about all these demands then she is a pretty demanding friend.. and I know I wouldn't have friends like that!! I sure hope u can resolve this before 2 weeks is up!!!

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this is the part that i disagreed with Pershy about and completly agree with Chrissy with.... how can any true freind who willingly agree to be part of a bridal party badmouth the whole day for this poor girl..I mean I know she must have been fed up cuz some of the brides requests were a little drawn out but still.. u don't donwtalk everything. Thats just not right and i do have a feeling that after all is said and done they will no longer be on speaking terms. No matter how unimportant this girls wedding is the the bridal party it is important to the bride and she (im sure) has worked hard on it..
I dunno I guess I can see both side and im sure they both have their own side to the story.. there is always side one side 2 and the truth...


We will never know but I have one request to the original poaster... can u please keep us poasted on how things turn out. Just trying to make sure that no real rumbles break out during this girls wedding..

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Posted by smara

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Posted by lilqtpie2181

NO LUNCH?????i would have dropped out when i heard that i eat all day long!

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No one can stop me from eating..

I would get an order of Large Onion rings from BK and eat it right before the wedding.

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hahahaha

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I hate stuff like this...I'm a 'need to know' kind of girl...

Ok, 2 weeks from now would be beginning of June at 4:00....NO PERFECT MATCHES on this post.

If you find out, please FM me so I can sleep tonight.

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Posted by wp2006

yes my wedding was just a party. Was it big? yes (in terms of my life)
Was it expensive? sure
did it stress me? yup

But my focus was on creating an atmosphere of joy & love and fun. it was about a CELEBRATION, in other words, yes it was just a party.
This wedding is about photos and impressions and showing up others.

As for splitting up couples, I mean married couples - both in WP, walking with others down the aisle because one is best man but his wife is 'only' a BM. And splitting up [married & engaged] couples so they sit at different tables and have to take photos with, and [have to] dance with their match up instead of their spouse [or date].

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My Fh is in a wedding party this fall, and I'm not a BM - I would never think that it would be 'hateful'

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Posted by lipglossjunky73

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Posted by wp2006

So you all, as brides, really think that I shoudl approach the bride, NOW inteh 11th hour (wedding in less than 2 weeks) with these concerns?

You think that would be appropriate?
You don't think that would maybe be stress she doesn't need right now?

These were [mostly] not issues back a few months out when I could have gracefully declined. if I back out now, she needs to reconfigure her procession, her seating, her everything.

So I decided to vent ina nuetral place while also letting brides in on how actions appear to others.

it;s JUST a wedding.

And while maybe htis experience is showing I shouldn't be friends with her in general, i somehow thing now, during her stressing, is not the appropriate or mature time to break off being friends.

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the thing is, when you tell us to get over ourselves, then the tone becomes a wee less neutral!

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Posted by JenNeen

I hate stuff like this...I'm a 'need to know' kind of girl...

Ok, 2 weeks from now would be beginning of June at 4:00....NO PERFECT MATCHES on this post.

If you find out, please FM me so I can sleep tonight.

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omg seriously, FM me too cuz I just went and skimmed all the posts trying to be detective.

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Posted by ChrissynRicky

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Posted by itslaurie.

Although your delivery isn't so great, I think you provide an interesting perspective.

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I agree that you bought up some valid points that I certainly agree with, but your delivery needs work.

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Totally agree.

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Posted by STBMrsDaniRella

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Posted by JennandPhil827

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Posted by wp2006

yes my wedding was just a party. Was it big? yes (in terms of my life)
Was it expensive? sure
did it stress me? yup

But my focus was on creating an atmosphere of joy & love and fun. it was about a CELEBRATION, in other words, yes it was just a party.
This wedding is about photos and impressions and showing up others.

As for splitting up couples, I mean married couples - both in WP, walking with others down the aisle because one is best man but his wife is 'only' a BM. And splitting up [married & engaged] couples so they sit at different tables and have to take photos with, and [have to] dance with their match up instead of their spouse [or date].

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Would it kill you to walk down the aisle with someone else? Is it that terrible?? I think you should have just said no to the BM thing. I dont think you know how to do something for someone elses day- certain things are unreasonable to ask of a bridal party member but to walk down an aisle with someone else is not.

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yeah exactly-- you act like she is asking you to perform a sexual act on someone else who is not your FH/DH while walking down the aisle, it's crazy!!!

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' We would now like to invite the bridal party onto the floor to perform BLEEEEP on each other....'



sorry - its been a loooong day - Ron - don't kick me off, please!!!

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Posted by lipglossjunky73

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Posted by wp2006

yes my wedding was just a party. Was it big? yes (in terms of my life)
Was it expensive? sure
did it stress me? yup

But my focus was on creating an atmosphere of joy & love and fun. it was about a CELEBRATION, in other words, yes it was just a party.
This wedding is about photos and impressions and showing up others.

As for splitting up couples, I mean married couples - both in WP, walking with others down the aisle because one is best man but his wife is 'only' a BM. And splitting up [married & engaged] couples so they sit at different tables and have to take photos with, and [have to] dance with their match up instead of their spouse [or date].

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My Fh is in a wedding party this fall, and I'm not a BM - I would never think that it would be 'hateful'

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i think she meant with seating or with invitations - as in inviting people by themselves or seating them by themselves
at least, thats how i took it..

eta- i also wanted to say that i do think the tone of the post was extremely rude, but i understand op's compaints about the hair and about timinig and being an ungrateful bride-zilla, if you may, and that is where i agree..

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CRAZY

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LMAO WHAT???????

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Posted by lilqtpie2181

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Posted by smara

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Posted by lilqtpie2181

NO LUNCH?????i would have dropped out when i heard that i eat all day long!

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No one can stop me from eating..

I would get an order of Large Onion rings from BK and eat it right before the wedding.

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hahahaha

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LOL I WOULD BE SOOOOO NASTY THAT YOU WOULDNT WANT TO TALK TO ME IF I DIDNT EAT....

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Yeah, Brides ask for the strangest things. Last year I had to drive 3 hours upstate and stay for a whole weekend and pull weeds out of the ground and my fiance even mowed the lawn! It was an expensive weekend and I gave what I could afford. It was slightly annoying but that's what you do for your friends to make them happy. I just kept my mouth shut and cooperated and it turned out to be a lovely wedding. We all had a great time!

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OMG 8 pages later ,, This is crazie,,

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I have to say that the original poster is entitled to her opinions. However, I think that the way she handled herself was uncalled for. She posted this knowing her friend would read it. She stated that she didn't want to cause her friend stress but then posts this? Really, she should have just confronted her and expressed her feelings in a calm nonaccusatory way. If the bride is really your friend, you would talk to her one on one and let her know how you feel. You shouldn't post it on a public forum that you know she reads.

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Posted by hmpena

I have to say that the original poster is entitled to her opinions. However, I think that the way she handled herself was uncalled for. She posted this knowing her friend would read it. She stated that she didn't want to cause her friend stress but then posts this? Really, she should have just confronted her and expressed her feelings in a calm nonaccusatory way. If the bride is really your friend, you would talk to her one on one and let her know how you feel. You shouldn't post it on a public forum that you know she reads.

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well said! Seems like she is trying to cause trouble....

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Posted by melissa&carmine

Stop complaining and do something about it - talk to you friend and back out of the wedding party.

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Exactly! You are annoyed at her for her behavior. I would never demand any of my BM to do or pay for anything, & I'm seating my bridal party w/ their guests. So sit down and have a talk w/ your friend and vent to her, dont freak out on us