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Posted by Future Mrs H

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Posted by sophisticat13

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Posted by Future Mrs H

FH and I are really stressing out over this wedding. We only have Saturdays to work on things and Starting March 14 we wont even have that till the end of June. (I am taking a class for a test I have to take for work). Weekday evenings he is the caregiver for his mom who is home bound, on a walker and on oxygen ( and is so difficult to deal with) and on Sundays I am there to help him out. We dont seem to have any time for ourselves. Between the stress of the church and trying to find FH baptism certificate and everything else we are starting to think maybe we should have just gotten married at city hall and go on a HM. I know he really wants this wedding since its his first but I am so afraid all of this will take a toll on him. I am sorry I need to vent a little. Couldnt really with my family because as I have said in other posts they dont understand why we are doing this anyway.
Thank you all for listening. I am sure we will still go on with the plans but we need to have time for ourselves and we have to find it sometime.

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You def. have a lot on your plate right now Sounds like you and FH really need some quality time. Is there any way you can take even a one-day trip and get away?
I'm also wondering about your FMIL. Being a primary caretaker can totally take its toll....it doesn't seem fair to him (I hope you don't mind my saying that)- can he get a nurse's aide or someone to relieve him/help him at least one night each week to free up an evening for him (and you)?

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We have an aid there till 6:00 Mon-Fri and Sat till 8:00. We are looking into getting one for Sundays and maybe eventually (in the summer) a 24 hour live in. If we get a live in it would make life so much easier., and we would be able to get away. What stinks is that we have a house in Greenport that is a gerat getaway place but we cant get there unless its just for the day. Its just getting harder and harder especially since she is such a difficult person.
Good note though, FH got his Baptism Cert. in th mail today. One less worry.

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That's great Sounds like you are trying to get more help for her which will in turn help you and FH a lot It makes it worse that she is difficult. Is she happy for you guys at all??

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I am Cari....41 yrs old. I decided not to do the garter/bouquet toss. I also decided not to have a bridal party...just my sis and my FH sis as our 'best people'

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I am Cari....41 yrs old. I decided not to do the garter/bouquet toss. I also decided not to have a bridal party...just my sis and my FH sis as our 'best people'

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Welcome Cari! I'm Gina, and I'm 40. I'm not doing the toss either. I didn't want to have a BP, and just wanted to have my 2 sisters as MOHs and FH was going to have his 3 best friends as GM. However, we needed to include his sister, so I now have a BP of 3 and 3.

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Posted by caper24

I am Cari....41 yrs old. I decided not to do the garter/bouquet toss. I also decided not to have a bridal party...just my sis and my FH sis as our 'best people'

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Welcome Cari! I'm Gina, and I'm 40. I'm not doing the toss either. I didn't want to have a BP, and just wanted to have my 2 sisters as MOHs and FH was going to have his 3 best friends as GM. However, we needed to include his sister, so I now have a BP of 3 and 3.

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Welcome and congrats!! I'm Kirsten. I had just my two sisters as my MOH and my SIL as my one BM. FH had his best friend as the best man. I also didn't do the garter/bo-k toss...one thing you learn when you get older is less is more

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Posted by sophisticat13

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Posted by geegee827

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Posted by caper24

I am Cari....41 yrs old. I decided not to do the garter/bouquet toss. I also decided not to have a bridal party...just my sis and my FH sis as our 'best people'

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Welcome Cari! I'm Gina, and I'm 40. I'm not doing the toss either. I didn't want to have a BP, and just wanted to have my 2 sisters as MOHs and FH was going to have his 3 best friends as GM. However, we needed to include his sister, so I now have a BP of 3 and 3.

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Welcome and congrats!! I'm Kirsten. I had just my two sisters as my MOH and my SIL as my one BM. FH had his best friend as the best man. I also didn't do the garter/bo-k toss...one thing you learn when you get older is less is more

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Welcome Cari- I'm Celia. I am not having the garter/boquet toss or a big BP either. We are just having My sil as moh and his Best friend as BM and my neice and nephew as Jr BM and RB,

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We went to sit with our DJ on Sat. I loved him!!! He gave us to go ahead to pick whatever songs we wanted. If we wanted to pick every song he plays we can do that. I think that would be a little much to do, but I am glad he is giving options. He also promised us if someone request a song on our Do Not Play list he will not play it. We are just going for the basic package, no giveaways or up lighting or special MC. I am so happy with him.

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I was just reading a post about the RH bathroom. Are any of you doing anything for the bathroom like flowers, decorating or baskets? To me, I never even though about it. As long as the bathrooms are clean, I dont really care.

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I am not doing bathroom baskets - was never even a thought in my head. I swear, I always assumed the place did them for you.

I am also not doing 'cry-packs.' I didn't even know what those were till a couple of months ago. I always thought if you're going to a wedding and you're the type to cry at weddings (like me) you bring tissues.

I'm glad you met with your DJ. He sounds just like mine (FM?)

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I am not doing bathroom baskets - was never even a thought in my head. I swear, I always assumed the place did them for you.

I am also not doing 'cry-packs.' I didn't even know what those were till a couple of months ago. I always thought if you're going to a wedding and you're the type to cry at weddings (like me) you bring tissues.

I'm glad you met with your DJ. He sounds just like mine (FM?)

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My DJ is Imagine Entertainment, They are through the Wedding Plaza

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And the Cry - pack thing. I dont get that either. I always bring tissues to a wedding.
Also the slipper basket. If my shoes hurt at a wedding I take them off. But usually I will wear a pair of shoe that are comfy, I never expect the bride to provide for my feet.

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Posted by caper24

I am Cari....41 yrs old. I decided not to do the garter/bouquet toss. I also decided not to have a bridal party...just my sis and my FH sis as our 'best people'

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Hello and welcome to LIW and the Official Fab at Forty+ thread Glad you stopped by. reading your post earlier about the bi@tch at the dress store made me think of the scene in Pretty Woman when she goes back to the store and throws all her shopping bags in the saleslady's face a says 'Big Mistake' You are a hottie and you def will rock that dress!!!!!!

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Renay- Haven't seen you on lately. Is all Ok?????

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Posted by Future Mrs H

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Posted by sophisticat13

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Posted by geegee827

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Posted by caper24

I am Cari....41 yrs old. I decided not to do the garter/bouquet toss. I also decided not to have a bridal party...just my sis and my FH sis as our 'best people'

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Welcome Cari! I'm Gina, and I'm 40. I'm not doing the toss either. I didn't want to have a BP, and just wanted to have my 2 sisters as MOHs and FH was going to have his 3 best friends as GM. However, we needed to include his sister, so I now have a BP of 3 and 3.

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Welcome and congrats!! I'm Kirsten. I had just my two sisters as my MOH and my SIL as my one BM. FH had his best friend as the best man. I also didn't do the garter/bo-k toss...one thing you learn when you get older is less is more

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Welcome Cari- I'm Celia. I am not having the garter/boquet toss or a big BP either. We are just having My sil as moh and his Best friend as BM and my neice and nephew as Jr BM and RB,

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Hi Cari, I'm Renay and i'm not doing garter/boquet toss or a big BP either. It will will be just us.

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Posted by Future Mrs H

Renay- Haven't seen you on lately. Is all Ok?????

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Hi ladies, sorry i was on vacation in the mountains of vacation and didn't have internet service. I was only online to check email for the job. I'm back now, so let the chat began.

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Posted by Future Mrs H

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Posted by geegee827

I am not doing bathroom baskets - was never even a thought in my head. I swear, I always assumed the place did them for you.

I am also not doing 'cry-packs.' I didn't even know what those were till a couple of months ago. I always thought if you're going to a wedding and you're the type to cry at weddings (like me) you bring tissues.

I'm glad you met with your DJ. He sounds just like mine (FM?)

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My DJ is Imagine Entertainment, They are through the Wedding Plaza

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I am so glad you get to choose the music. I am not doing anything for the bathroom, slipper or cry packs. I can think of a lot of things I can add to my honeymoon. I am at a point that if it's not free, then i just don't need it. Also since the bulk of both of our families are not from NY, they wouldn't even miss it. None of my friends knows about LIW and I have been going to weddings since we got engage.

My DJ is a family friend of FH, so I get to pick all the music. Sincs I haven't seen him play I am just not going to get that work up. FMIL love him and wanted him to do the music I'm not going to loose sleep over it.

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Renay!! Welcome back. Was wondering where you were! Missed you!!!! Did you go the the 2010 GTG yesterday? I couldnt go. Sundays is FMIL day until we get someone to be with her on Sundays.

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Posted by Future Mrs H

Renay!! Welcome back. Was wondering where you were! Missed you!!!! Did you go the the 2010 GTG yesterday? I couldnt go. Sundays is FMIL day until we get someone to be with her on Sundays.

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Hi Celia, I really missed LIW, so it was a hardship for me not to talk to everyone.