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So sorry for your loss Groovey Peg....But Shelly's idea is great. I do think he willl he able to walk down the aisle, just can't take part in the celebratory stuff....The ceremony itself should be ok!

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Groovypeg- it really depends on how your FFIl feels and what his & your rabbi feel is ok for him to do. The more religous he is, the more restrictions he will have. It really is a personal decision. But another thing to consider is that usually, if it's your immediate family, you can participate. For example, my grandfather passed away within a year of my Bat-Mitzvah. My aunt came but did not dance. My father (since I am his daughter) was able to fully participate. My advice is to speak to your rabbi and have your FFIL speak to his rabbi. You will figure it out- I am really sorry for your loss!

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Those were some good ideas ladies for groovypeg! Joanna, speak to yhe rabbi marrying you and see what he says, That will give you the best answer out of everything!

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Sill Question, but what is the difference between a rabbi and a cantor when it comes to the wedding ceremony?
Thank you!

Rabbi vs. Cantor

I think not much... A cantor doens't make it any less valid. In fact, you don't really need either. The rabbi/cantor doesn't marry you, you marry each other.

That having been said, FH wants a rabbi!

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Is it tradition to have all the parents stand under the huppah during the ceremony? Is it really bad if we don't have it that way?

Both my parents are passed and I would feel really weird with both my FI's parents next to him and me alone. I also have no siblings. FI's mother is a little annoyed that she may not be standing...am I wrong?

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My FI's grandmother passed last month. She was 96 and her health was a source of concern for me - if she passed too close to the wedding, we might have had to postpone it. His mother is still in sheloshim and although she's reform/conservative she's also doing the full mourning for a year and isn't going to another family member's wedding because of it, but she's doing things for our wedding and going to it because it's her son.

I know that if it's a bride and groom's parent dies and the wedding is scheduled within 30 days of the burial, the wedding is postponed until after sheloshim, at which point the wedding is rescheduled and there are no restrictions on the joy of the day.

The job idea sounds like it might work too though.

Chloegirl, the idea is that both parents walk the bride and the groom down to the chuppah, which represents their new home. Everyone stands underneath the chuppah if they can. Do you have other people who can stand in for your parents, other people who have meant a lot to you? It can be two women, if that helps.

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Chloegirl, the idea is that both parents walk the bride and the groom down to the chuppah, which represents their new home. Everyone stands underneath the chuppah if they can. Do you have other people who can stand in for your parents, other people who have meant a lot to you? It can be two women, if that helps.

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Thanks for the explanation of the tradition. I really don't have anyone I want to stand with us under the huppah...but I guess I dont want to disrespect my FMIL & FFIL at the same time. It will just be really hard for me to not have my parents with me.

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For those of you who have been keeping Pesach....enjoy breaking it tonight! What's everyone going to eat? Pasta for me!!!

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CAnt wait for teh chinese food.


Thats in between seeing the florist and going to see a band tonight.

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I am catholic and my FI is jewish, we are having an interfaith wedding. He wants to use a different ring than his real wedding ring for the ceremony, because he wants it to be a plain gold band. Those of you that have designs/stones on your bands, are you doing this too? Are you buying a special band or using another family members? Does anyone know the significance of this? I want to make sure we are incorporating both of our faiths. Thanks for the help

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I am catholic and my FI is jewish, we are having an interfaith wedding. He wants to use a different ring than his real wedding ring for the ceremony, because he wants it to be a plain gold band. Those of you that have designs/stones on your bands, are you doing this too? Are you buying a special band or using another family members? Does anyone know the significance of this? I want to make sure we are incorporating both of our faiths. Thanks for the help

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I am using the eternity wedding band with diamonds i am getting not a plain gold band

i don't like plain gold

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Posted by flower1017

I am catholic and my FI is jewish, we are having an interfaith wedding. He wants to use a different ring than his real wedding ring for the ceremony, because he wants it to be a plain gold band. Those of you that have designs/stones on your bands, are you doing this too? Are you buying a special band or using another family members? Does anyone know the significance of this? I want to make sure we are incorporating both of our faiths. Thanks for the help

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I believe they say that you should get married with a plain band b/c it is simple beauty, like your marriage... I am not doing this though : )