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I just want to say that we can definitely keep this thread as is..., as someone else said, just keep posting to keep it on pg. 1 or 2!!!!!!

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I thought of that. It;s not about keeping this thread on page 1. it's keeping track of all of the different things going on within the thread. I find it hard to follow!

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I am getting married at Temple Beth Torah in December.

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I understand that as well. Maybe FM LIW and see what Ron and Liz can come up with!
If people don't make separate threads for each of their 'Jewish' questions we CAN keep everything together and just on this thread. All you will have to do is look at the last page for answers to your questions!

I hope this made some sense!

Also, I can help with anything (almost) you might want to know.

My wedding was almost 3 weeks ago!!!!!

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Welcome NYC04!!!!!!!

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Congratulations! I need SO much help! I'm not Jwish but FH is and he ahsn;t been to shul since his bar mitzvah, but we'd both like ot get bakc into it. neither of us ahs been to a Jewish Wedding! All i know I know from books and class! But I know that's not the way it works in real life!

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That's ok, ask away!!!!!!!!!!!!!

You can always FM me if you want also!

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Feel free to FM and ask me questions as well. Even if I don't know the answer, I have a lot of friends with a LOT of knowledge of Judaism.

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I have so many questions, I just don't know where to start! I'm really confused right now about what our options are b/c we're interfaith.

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You can also FM me with any questions. This is a great thread, but we need some better organization so that we can follow the responses to the questions.

I think posting individual threads on the 04/05 boards may not always work. I never check the 05 boards. I would love to come up with a way to make this work better.

making this easier

One way to keep this better organized is for people to change their subject lines when asked a question on a new topic, such as, 'Rabbis' or 'ketubahs'. When someone responds, she should make sure that her subject line is in reference to the question she's responding to, (i.e., 're: ketubahs'). This way, we at least know what everyone is referring to. Also, we can all use the quote function more frequently.

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That subject line thing is a good idea!

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That subject line thing is a good idea!

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Hmmm...unfortunately what I just noticed is that even if you click on something with a different subject line, like my last post titled, 'making this easier', you still get 'Re: Jewish Brides'. We would have to try and be careful to manually change the subject ourselves, which is a pain. grr...

Making this easier

GRRR

I can see your reaosn for disagreeing, but I think 'Jewish brides' is an equally large and sitinct category as '05 Brides', you know? I don't know. AUGH. We'll do the best we can.

What does everyone think is the most importan/significant aspect of a jewish wedding, like a tradition or practice? So I can get an idea!

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That's a tough question. I think one of the most commonly seen Jewish wedding traditions is the breaking of the glass. It's probably the most recognized. To me, having a Ketubah, the Jewish marriage contract, is the most important. Oh, and the ring ceremony (we're having a double one, although the groom is only required to give the bride a ring by Jewish Law). And of course, a Jewish wedding is not complete without a celebratory Hora. I love the Jewish ceremony because it is so steeped in age-old tradition.

There are so many different customs and traditions, and I have basically seen it all, having friends ranging from reform to orthodox....Have you read any books on Jewish weddings? Two that I would recommend are The New Jewish Wedding by Anita Diamant and The Everything Jewish Wedding Book by Helen Latner.

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I have the Diamant one! I've also taken a class on jewish traditions at school, so I know about all of the traditions, I was just wondering what people think is most important. FH thinks breaking the glass is very important. I LOVE the idea of the ketubah. I can't wait to have that made.

According to orthodizy, a double ring ceremony nullifies the marriage. Oh well!

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According to orthodizy, a double ring ceremony nullifies the marriage. Oh well!

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Yeah, I have heard that. Luckily my rabbi, while very traditional is more Conservadox, I guess, so he is allowing it. It really bothers me when I go to my friends' weddings and the bride goes through the entire ceremony without saying a single word.

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Yeah, I want everything to be really equal footing, including the ketubah. And any rabbi who wold maryr us (we don't have one yet) has got to be pretty liberal to begin with.

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My Rabbi only allows the Orthodox text for the Ketubah, which is extremely old-fashioned (I mean, it actually has stuff about goats in it, and dowries), but I was pleased that we were allowed to use an egalitarian english text underneath. That's the only part I'll know how to read anyhow! Of course, the reason that this is okay is b/c the English doesn't really matter, but I'll take what I can get! With a reform Rabbi, however, you will have more leeway with Ketubah texts.

I think I'm having an interesting mix of traditions in my ceremony. We are doing a double ring ceremony, which as you said, nullifies an orthodox marriage, and at the same time, I am circling Brad seven times, which I only see at the weddings of my orthodox friends. I just think that part of the ceremony is very beautiful and spiritual. Neither my mother nor my sister did it, and were a little taken aback that I wanted to, but both Brad and I loved the interpretation our Rabbi gave us. He said that because women are spiritually closer to G-d (that's why Jewish men wear yarmulkes or hats, to bring them closer), by circling the groom, the bride is creating the spiritual protection of the marriage.

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Happy Passover to all my fellow Jewish LIW Brides.