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Posted by windyBride33

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Posted by davenjess

Please know i wasn't lashing out at you...i was just overall frustrated! there are some other posts that have been making me VERY upset & i replied to your post at that time!

i quoted your post simply because you asked about the different BM's having different frames...and i didn't think that was the right info.

I promise - it was nothing personal at all and i'm sorry that you took it that way! I didn't mean for it to be taken that way at all...

I have just been seeing some INSANE posts lately about all kinds of different, silly things that are making me feel like i'm crazy & living in some alternate world.

All that matters is that you are marrying the man of your dreams in a beautiful place like the Fox Hollow....nothing else really matters!

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Not to take this too far off topic... on my home board (2010 brides) I ask a lot of specific questions about all sorts of minute details... because 3/4s of this stuff I hadn't even HEARD OF before I signed onto LIW. By asking the question I get an idea of what I want and what I don't want.... Maybe that's what you're seeing? Maybe it isn't...

I was never a girly-girl and seriously, I'm pretty low-maintenance, but I'm planning a day where I marry the man I love more than more than anything else on this earth. 100+ of my closest friends are going to witness this awesome event.... so I want to ask all about the details now so I get it as close to perfect as I possibly can.

In the grand scheme of things does it matter what color the table frames are? No, not at all... but I can see people asking about it so they can have an idea of what they're going to do.

THAT being said, you've been an awesome resource in this particular topic (and others) and seem to be well loved on the BHB so I value your opinion as someone who's 'been there, done that'.

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I think that as it gets closer to our wedding date, little things we didn't think about while imagining the big picture come up and make us wonder: what did we pay for, what's in our contracts, what's included, what's not, what do THEY provide, what do WE have to provide, etc. It's like any big purchase you'd make, you research beforehand and make sure all the details are to your liking, especially since it's costing a lof of $$ (FH and I are doing this ourselves). And I'm like you, before LIW, I had never heard of some things.

In the whole scheme of things, yes, table numbers don't matter. But then again, neither do placecards, how the tables are set up, if you have an aisle runner or not, if you throw rice/rose petals/bubbles or nothing at all. It's your relationship with FH that matters way past the wedding day for the rest of your lives. FH even said to me on our drive to Chicago yesterday that I'm not like other girls he's watched get married, that I'm planning for our lifelong marriage and not just one wedding day. I’ve been more focused on keeping under our budget and planning our financial future than planning this one day.

I hope this post doesn't sound bad, it's just an explanation of why I'm asking the questions that I have been lately. I really appreciate all the info from all the brides on here, past and present, because reading your advice and Q&A's frees up my time to get real work done, rather than making 10 calls to Fox Hollow for the same things that are already answered here.

If we go back to the first few pages of this thread, as I've been doing lately to get info without making those phone calls, there are a bunch of posts about placecards and cake choices, things that may not seem important to all, but for those in that particular planning stage, the info that you all provided there proves very helpful!!!

So thank you to everyone who has participated in this thread!!!

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I think this thread has been incredibily helpful. I do ask a lot of questions, I am sure some are dumb questions but I just have no idea. And of course, I have been dreaming of this day forever and want everything to be perfect! When the day comes, I am sure I won't notice the color of the napkins but if I do they better be what I wanted...haha!

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i was not referring to anything anyone on this thread has said, honestly.

i was referencing the person on 08 who wasn't inviting someone because of his mental capacity and then the girl the other day who was afraid that someone she knows would get pregnant and be giving birth on her 'special day'.

things just get so out of control with wedding planning - that it's hard to see the big picture...

all i am saying and all i have tried to say is that remember, you are marrying the person you love most in this world & the only real thing that matters is that you both are there and so is the person marrying you.

I personally, was married in secret at Niagara Falls on December 31st, 2007 and it was the best decision we could've ever made. Every ounce of stress we had was GONE, we had the PERFECT ceremony, the perfect weather (it snowed), everything was PERFECT. What happened after that - didn't matter to me.

All it took for my 'perfect' wedding was Dave & I to be in Niagara Falls (a place we LOVE and visit every year), have a close friend marry us & for it to snow. That's all I needed.

(pic below is right after we were married, we wrote just married in the snow and were doing 'shake n bake' from talladega nights).

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Ok, just got a tear! How romantic!!! Wow....I am just at a loss for words



PS - Love the shake n bake!

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I'm sorry if this was posted already, but there are soooo many pages, I cant find it

The Fox Hollow provides flowers for the place card table, right?

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FH and i do shake and bake all the time we are doing that when we walk intot he reception

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Posted by stinenandy2010

Ok, just got a tear! How romantic!!! Wow....I am just at a loss for words



PS - Love the shake n bake!

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we got simple, silver wedding bands for that ceremony and i still wear it. i have a stack of rings now...the first wedding one, my e ring and the fox hollow ceremony ring.

i have his silver ring in my purse.....

all that matters is that you love the person you are standing there with. in the end, that's it.

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Posted by FutureMrsF2010

I'm sorry if this was posted already, but there are soooo many pages, I cant find it

The Fox Hollow provides flowers for the place card table, right?

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we provided our own. i'm not sure if they do that or not. our cocktail hour was in the restaurant and our 'place card table' was the piano...it really didn't need flowers to make it nice - but i wanted something with LIGHTS...i'm a glow girl....(the number of light up things in our house is astounding)..

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i just added an album - super secret wedding - i uploaded some pics in there...

none of them are of the ceremony itself - that i have on video (we asked an older couple to be our witnesses and they asked if their family could witness too, we said yes, one guy was like, i can run the camera for you...end result is INCREDIBLE, he zoomed in on our hands, etc.)...

it was 100% legal, they signed our marriage license (we now have 2) and we're HUGE football fans.....their last name (the witnesses) was MADDEN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

HELLO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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Posted by FutureMrsF2010

I'm sorry if this was posted already, but there are soooo many pages, I cant find it

The Fox Hollow provides flowers for the place card table, right?

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I believe so. I think Richard provides them, as well for the cocktail tables and flowers for the servers and around the food stations

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Posted by davenjess

all that matters is that you love the person you are standing there with. in the end, that's it.

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That's my feelings exactly. I'm a pelvic bone cancer survivor (20 years next year!!) and just to have FH love me for who I am, knowing my medical history and limitations, knowing that fertility may be an issue (we've been baby-crazy lately!!) and he says he wouldn't want to jeopardize my health at all, that's all that matters!!

FH and I had a few conversations about a secret wedding, just the 2 of us and witnesses at city hall, and then having the whole Fox Hollow wedding as planned in November. If we were going to do that, it would've been yesterday, July 28th, our 3-yr dating anniversary. But we're also very family-oriented, and couldn't imagine our families not being there. So we've been taking our time and planning everything ourselves.

Doing the little things to personalize our wedding makes it even more special. Instead of buying new DOJ, I'm wearing the heart necklace he gave me for my birthday/Valentine's day and a bracelet from my mom. We're using FH's kiddush cup from his bar mitzvah..... he said then it would be as if I knew him when he was 13. All of the DIY projects that I'm doing are because I have layout design & typesetting experience and miss doing these things. My pediatric oncologist, nurse, and late-effects doctor are on my guestlist, since without them, I wouldn't be alive. We're seriously budgeting so we can hopefully start a family and have a good financial future, as I'm always worried that my health will go downhill and we'll need that savings for a rainy day.

Just to hear FH turn to me at night before going to sleep, look at me with those eyes, and say, 'I can't wait to call you 'my wife',' is everything to me!!!

Jess, did anyone else know about the secret wedding? Do they know now? That was very romantic!!!

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Posted by CC11208

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Posted by davenjess

all that matters is that you love the person you are standing there with. in the end, that's it.

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That's my feelings exactly. I'm a pelvic bone cancer survivor (20 years next year!!) and just to have FH love me for who I am, knowing my medical history and limitations, knowing that fertility may be an issue (we've been baby-crazy lately!!) and he says he wouldn't want to jeopardize my health at all, that's all that matters!!

FH and I had a few conversations about a secret wedding, just the 2 of us and witnesses at city hall, and then having the whole Fox Hollow wedding as planned in November. If we were going to do that, it would've been yesterday, July 28th, our 3-yr dating anniversary. But we're also very family-oriented, and couldn't imagine our families not being there. So we've been taking our time and planning everything ourselves.

Doing the little things to personalize our wedding makes it even more special. Instead of buying new DOJ, I'm wearing the heart necklace he gave me for my birthday/Valentine's day and a bracelet from my mom. We're using FH's kiddush cup from his bar mitzvah..... he said then it would be as if I knew him when he was 13. All of the DIY projects that I'm doing are because I have layout design & typesetting experience and miss doing these things. My pediatric oncologist, nurse, and late-effects doctor are on my guestlist, since without them, I wouldn't be alive. We're seriously budgeting so we can hopefully start a family and have a good financial future, as I'm always worried that my health will go downhill and we'll need that savings for a rainy day.

Just to hear FH turn to me at night before going to sleep, look at me with those eyes, and say, 'I can't wait to call you 'my wife',' is everything to me!!!

Jess, did anyone else know about the secret wedding? Do they know now? That was very romantic!!!

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20 years free of cancer - INCREDIBLE!!!! Congratulations!!!!!

one person on this thread knew about the wedding (jboothin2008 - love ya jenn!!!!) and 3 other people total.

the number of people in our lives who know now is maybe 15 and that's it.

our parents will never know (my dad would regret not having that 'moment' with me) and my best friend will never know as she'd KILL ME...

the whole reason we had the 'wedding' was because dave wanted it... my dream was something small...and private.

dave gave me that dream and now every year when we go away to Niagara Falls for new years', we can celebrate our moment in time. For us - our anniversary is the 31st....

we also figure it'll be a wonderful place to be able to take our children to let them in on mom & dad's secret...

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Posted by davenjess

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Posted by CC11208

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Posted by davenjess

all that matters is that you love the person you are standing there with. in the end, that's it.

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That's my feelings exactly. I'm a pelvic bone cancer survivor (20 years next year!!) and just to have FH love me for who I am, knowing my medical history and limitations, knowing that fertility may be an issue (we've been baby-crazy lately!!) and he says he wouldn't want to jeopardize my health at all, that's all that matters!!

FH and I had a few conversations about a secret wedding, just the 2 of us and witnesses at city hall, and then having the whole Fox Hollow wedding as planned in November. If we were going to do that, it would've been yesterday, July 28th, our 3-yr dating anniversary. But we're also very family-oriented, and couldn't imagine our families not being there. So we've been taking our time and planning everything ourselves.

Doing the little things to personalize our wedding makes it even more special. Instead of buying new DOJ, I'm wearing the heart necklace he gave me for my birthday/Valentine's day and a bracelet from my mom. We're using FH's kiddush cup from his bar mitzvah..... he said then it would be as if I knew him when he was 13. All of the DIY projects that I'm doing are because I have layout design & typesetting experience and miss doing these things. My pediatric oncologist, nurse, and late-effects doctor are on my guestlist, since without them, I wouldn't be alive. We're seriously budgeting so we can hopefully start a family and have a good financial future, as I'm always worried that my health will go downhill and we'll need that savings for a rainy day.

Just to hear FH turn to me at night before going to sleep, look at me with those eyes, and say, 'I can't wait to call you 'my wife',' is everything to me!!!

Jess, did anyone else know about the secret wedding? Do they know now? That was very romantic!!!

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20 years free of cancer - INCREDIBLE!!!! Congratulations!!!!!

one person on this thread knew about the wedding (jboothin2008 - love ya jenn!!!!) and 3 other people total.

the number of people in our lives who know now is maybe 15 and that's it.

our parents will never know (my dad would regret not having that 'moment' with me) and my best friend will never know as she'd KILL ME...

the whole reason we had the 'wedding' was because dave wanted it... my dream was something small...and private.

dave gave me that dream and now every year when we go away to Niagara Falls for new years', we can celebrate our moment in time. For us - our anniversary is the 31st....

we also figure it'll be a wonderful place to be able to take our children to let them in on mom & dad's secret...

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AWWWWW I am totally crying right now! That is so sweet and special for the two of you. Good for you Jess!!!!

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i also posted the video of the ceremony - it's 9 minutes long, all said and done.

the ceremony was VERY personalized, all kinds of 'in jokes', degrassi jokes, movie references...

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Posted by davenjess

i also posted the video of the ceremony - it's 9 minutes long, all said and done.

the ceremony was VERY personalized, all kinds of 'in jokes', degrassi jokes, movie references...

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Thats really sweet that you guys had a secret wedding!!!

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Posted by davenjess

i also posted the video of the ceremony - it's 9 minutes long, all said and done.

the ceremony was VERY personalized, all kinds of 'in jokes', degrassi jokes, movie references...

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Jess, I know I don't actually know you, but the more posts I read, the more I like you and respect you. So many people on these boards are stressed out or jump all over each other, and you always put things in the right perspective.

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I applaud you for having the secret wedding.

It is totally great how the two of you stayed grounded and remembered exactly WHY you are doing this - to MARRY EACH OTHER! NO pomp and circumstance needed. Just the true focus of it all - marrying him!


Love love love it! Even happier for you!

Plus the addition of Degrassi is such a sweet idea! LMAO I loved Snake (still do - I watch the new ones also!)

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Posted by klanghan

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Posted by davenjess

i also posted the video of the ceremony - it's 9 minutes long, all said and done.

the ceremony was VERY personalized, all kinds of 'in jokes', degrassi jokes, movie references...

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Jess, I know I don't actually know you, but the more posts I read, the more I like you and respect you. So many people on these boards are stressed out or jump all over each other, and you always put things in the right perspective.

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Thank you - that means a lot to me.

I just see so many people, on all the boards going crazy over things that, once it's done - don't matter, even a little bit.

Once you are 'done', you will see what I see... I know i'm not the only one who feels like this...it's why a lot of people stop posting once the wedding is over..

I genuinely care about us Fox Hollow girls and just want to see you all happy...(and we really do need to have some kind of GTG ya know!!!)!!!

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Hey all. I am going to my appointment on August 7 to pick out the cake and what not. It's very exciting! My stepmother just finished addressing the invitations and she is sending them out on friday. This is really happeneing!!!!

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Question past FH brides - Any idea how early FH lets u in before your reception starts??? My church starts at 3 and my CH doesnt start till 7:30, therefore I am trying to save on limos and not get charged overtime.