Well-Noted: What NOT To Say When Saying Thank You
May 16, 2018 01:19 PM Back
Remember when mom taught you that if you had nothing nice to say, then it was best not to say anything at all. Well, the same holds true for thank you notes. While much of the “pomp and circumstance” has been pushed aside, there are still (some) rules and regulations you need to abide by.

1. Just Say NO to Techno: Notes of gratitude should be personal and that means no emails, no texts and no tweets.

2. Stay Mum on Money: Do NOT mention the monetary value of the gift (your guest knows what he/she/or they gave you) Instead simply thank the recipient for the generous gift and let them know what you will be doing with it. For instance consider noting that the kind contribution will be used toward a new bedroom set or for future savings, etc.

3.  Refrain from Mentioning That the Gift Was Not “Original”: Even if you bought one for yourself or received another one or two, its best to keep some things to yourself.  Simply state how useful the gift will be…even if you plan on gifting it to someone else…chances are it WILL be useful to “someone” even if that someone isn’t you.

4. Choose Your Words Carefully and Wisely: It’s often times not what you say, but how you say it...so word to the wise: choose your words wisely. Rather than describing something as “interesting” use words as kind, generous, unique, one-of-a-kind, etc. And, be sure to point out something about the gift that you “like”… such as the color or something….after all you don’t want to be potentially perceived as insulting.

5. Don’t Repeat Yourself: Rather than jotting down something standard and repetitious, craft your note to each recipient. You may even want to share with the gift giver how you plan on using their purchase…for instance, “the fine china will help us serve up many holiday and family memories”.

6. Keep Quiet about Empty Envelopes:  If someone doesn’t make a monetary “contribution” to your future or if you haven’t received a gift from a guest that was unable to attend, keep your comments and your feelings to yourself….well, of course, unless they ask in which case you’ll have to be diplomatic about it. Otherwise thank them for their kind well-wishes and leave it at that.

7. Never Exchange Ideas about Exchanging what you’ve Received: So, you may have gotten king sheets for a queen bed…but, remember, the good intentions were there.  Just express your gratitude and make the exchange quietly and without anyone knowing.
Well-Noted: What NOT To Say When Saying Thank You
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