Encore Brides and Grooms: Rules For Saying “I Do” For the Second Time
May 22, 2019 12:41 PM Back
Many of you may not remember Shalamar…but “back in the day” he sang a song titled “The Second Time Around”…a perfect song selection for many modern brides who may be walking down the aisle for their second time. Just like the first time, you do want to celebrate your love and your union but this time you may want to exhibit a little more attention to “etiquette”. Here are some Dos and Don’ts for repeat performers.
1. Choose a more intimate crowd and celebration…think simple sophistication
2. Be prepared to finance the festivities yourself
3. Skip the white wedding dress and instead opt for a less “formal” design such as a classic dress or suit to suit your age and your style. Men can wear a tux…but a sophisticated and dignified suit is just as appropriate.
4. Keep the wedding party to a minimum if you opt for one at all.
5. Just say no to an engagement party, a bridal shower and a bachelorette/bachelor party. If you want to celebrate with the girls or guys consider a nice dinner or a weekend at the spa or sporting event or…the casino, just to name a few.
6. Make sure to include children. If you’re re-marrying chances are you and your friends already have kids so it would be rude to exclude them.
7. Don’t expect elaborate gifts. It’s probably fair to say that you got “larger than life” gifts on your first, “larger than life” soiree…so, expect modest gifts of acknowledgement this time around.
8. Make sure your favors are favorable. Instead of trendy think traditional with gifts such as bottles of liquor, cigars, gift certificates, etc.
9. Steer Clear of mutual friends for your celebration. Even if you’ve become great friends with your ex’s friends, relatives or immediate family you may want to opt out of inviting them…even if you have to call and explain why…it may be uncomfortable for both sides on so many levels. If you want to stay in contact consider treating them to a dinner, cocktails or home-cooked meal after you’ve tied the knot.
10. Steer clear of wedding clichés such as honeymoon or babymoon. Instead refer to your post wedding getaway as a vacation or time away to unwind.
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